Emotions in Real Estate
Buying or selling real estate is an emotional process, as evidenced by the number of sellers I have led to tears simply by writing an offer below their list price on behalf of a buyer.
There are any number of things that can happen during a transaction, all of which can lead a seller to want to “throw myself in front of a bus,” as one of my homeowners put it this week. (And her home is under contract!)
What most buyers and sellers want is a real estate agent who will be as upset or elated or frustrated as they are, and visibly so. But just because this is what the buyers and sellers may want doesn’t mean it’s what they need.
One of my peers was immortalized in the Arizona Republic for having a cell phone chucked at his head as he presented an offer to his sellers. I doubt his sellers would have wanted to see that same cell phone flying back at them.
Most real estate professionals, if they have any real experience, take on a “been there, done that” kind of attitude with most situations that arise. Some of it is because we have been there and done that. And some of it is because that’s the attitude our clients are paying for, even if they don’t realize it.
Think about it. If your doctor sees a spot on one of your x-ray, which would you rather hear next?
- “This looks a little unusual, but it’s something I’ve seen before. Here’s what we ought to do from this point.”
- (gasp) “OH MY GOD! WHAT IN THE HELL IS THAT?!?!?!?”
Ummmm … I know my choice.
Since my branch manager has begged suggested I not write about current transactions, I’ll say only that there’s something unusual going on with one of my escrows. Unusual, but not at all unheard of and not unseen.
Granted, I’m not at a Russell Shaw-esque 400 sales per year, but my 1-2 closings a month has been steady through both the Phoenix real estate market’s hot and cold cycles. The point is there is very little that comes up that either I haven’t seen or heard about.
Empathy is one thing. And I do empathize with my clients, as I remember what it was like waiting to sell my own home years ago before I went into the business. But I’m not given to panic, especially when there’s no cause.
This isn’t to say I’m an unemotional automaton. Far from it. But the yelling, screaming and other forms of posturing are reserved for the other agent and the title company (or for my branch manager/co-workers over a hefeweizen.) Never with my clients.
So before you become exasperated because your agent doesn’t appear to have as much invested emotionally in a real estate transaction as you, take a step back and think about what you truly want from an agent … one who can coolly assess a situation and develop a quick, effective solution or one who will come to pieces at the slightest hint of adversity.
Seems like an easy choice to me.
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